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Wallace continues, asking the graduates to look outside themselves and consider that everyone around them are suffering just the same, if not more than, they are. “It is extremely difficult to stay alert and attentive, instead of getting hypnotised by the constant monologue inside your own head.” (Wallace p. 3). How do you escape your own head to realize that there are others around you? How do you breathe when you realize that everyone around you is suffering? What do you do when you can’t tune them out and focus on your own struggles? That’s what I wish DFW had talked about more in his speech, because that is just as important as how important he highlighted looking outside of yourself to be.
Yes, 100%. This is was such a fun read and I was so actively engaged the entire time. DFW is so amazingly articulate in his descriptions of adulthood and human suffering. I only wish he had validated individual suffering- saying that what you feel is real and important, that you don’t have to constantly be looking out to realize that everyone around you is also suffering, or possibly suffering more. Your own struggles are real and valid.
I think DFW is very clever in his wording- never quite defining the emotions and experiences he’s talking about as nothing more than “thinking” or being “well-adjusted” (Wallace p2). He’s stressing the importance of looking outward when all we’ve ever known is how to look inward. Doing so is so much more than just empathy.
“Anything […] you worship will eat you alive.” (Wallace p5). WOW. Where do I even start!! This is such an amazing one-liner. I had to take a second to really let that whole paragraph sink in. To propose the idea that what we idolize and hold most important are the things we’re insecure about is such an incredible idea. I never thought about it like that before, but it makes so much sense.
DFW’s main points are difficult to connect to Bloom’s “Is Empathy Overrated” because Wallace never explicitly defines what he’s talking about as empathy. However, they do share some similarities of how we as humans take our biases and place them onto how we view others. Bloom goes into detail, expressing that we can’t empathize with people different from us, like victims of sexual assault (p. 3). Wallace says “consider the likelihood that everyone else in the supermarket’s checkout line is just as bored and frustrated as [you are].” (p. 5). Wallace suggests that we can only empathize with someone in the same situation as ourselves, just as Bloom proposes.




Paul Bloom makes three main points in his discussion. First, he suggests the idea of empathy being used as a spotlight, and our lived experiences aim and brighten that spotlight. Second, he says “The real problem is that we don’t have enough empathy for other people.” (Bloom pg2-3). Third, he proposes moral situations in which human empathy can’t be used reliably and puts others at risk. Ultimately he wants us to know that he is against empathy in the moral domain and that there are better ways to go about using your morals to interact with people.
My reaction to this text summed up into one word is “frustration.” Here comes another professional to comment on something that has been so influential in my lived experiences. Bloom seemingly forgets the concept of sympathy in his writing, not even bringing it up as a solution for alternatives to empathy. I believe that what he is describing as a spotlight isn’t empathy, he’s mistaken empathy for sympathy- and there’s a big difference. Empathy is thick, all-consuming, and overwhelming, which means that plenty of people don’t have the mental intelligence and capacity to use their empathy to its fullest potential.
No, I do not. Bloom wants his readers to think more deeply and reflect on their use of empathy when the emotions and actions better match the definition of sympathy and the ability to use compassion.
I don’t think Bloom challenges my definition of empathy. I want to challenge his perception of it though. Bloom uses a spotlight as an analogy for empathy when it’s so much more than that. Even for neurotypical people empathy isn’t a pointed source that can be aimed, it’s more a room’s dimmer switch. Neurodivergent empathy is a whole other beast (think a light control board for a theater).
“Further, spotlights only illuminate what they are pointed at, so empathy reflects our biases.” (Bloom pg2) was the quote I chose for this example. True, all-encompassing empathy doesn’t care about your biases. Maybe your sympathy and compassion do, but not empathy. Empathy is unconditional and is felt for all people, regardless of what you think about them. The idea that empathy is something that can be turned on and off and aimed is just incorrect, empathy is felt and can’t be placed upon someone by choice.
“I believe that some of the most important and meaningful connections can be created and maintained completely online.”
I think my thesis is pretty specific- some of the most important people in a person’s life can be online the entire time. I know that I’ve never met my best friend in real life, and yet, they’re one of my closest friends.
I was reminded that I don’t really have a writing process and that when I write, I either get tunnel vision or am completely stressed out. Not a very healthy balance… But I got it done, and I think now I just need to focus my energy on this upcoming essay.
I honestly didn’t do very well in the revision stage, I was scrambling for ideas and to be completely honest my essay felt a little half-baked. It’s not my best work, and I think I could have put more effort into the conclusion and specificity of the body paragraphs.
I think essay #2 will be more interesting and personal in terms of topic. I’m really looking forward to it. I plan to use SAS011 to its fullest extent and try taking breaks and coming back, that’s worked in the past and I didn’t do that with this essay.
Lammot says that shitty first drafts are meant to be just that- shitty. The most important thing to do is dump your brain onto a piece of paper so that you can mold and create something in your second draft. Product and process are equally important, as one is almost impossible without the other.
For me, my writing process is almost non-existent. I don’t do well getting my thoughts cleanly written into nice flowing paragraphs, I get them jotted down in bullet points with sub-points explaining more. Writing any kind of flow is so difficult for me because I have so many ideas that I want to talk about that don’t always relate to one another cleanly. So for first drafts I really believe its the content and thought process that is the most important. If you have something to start with it makes it all the more easier to link and flow and connect your ideas together in one big long essay.
Adrian Chen is an American blogger, writing about internet culture and it’s impact on the general public. At 39, he’s written for a slew of different publications and websites as well as created his own “humor publication” for Reed College. His most written about platforms are 4chan and Reddit, and that says a lot and I believe he knows what he’s talking about.
Megan Phelps-Roper’s personal transformation really began with the death of actress Brittany Murphy. While other church members reacted with glee, praising God for another worthy smite, Phelps-Roper felt conflicted. She’d loved Murphy’s work and when she continued through her timeline to see others mourning the actress she didn’t post about it like she normally would have. As the church of Westboro started to preach more aggressive stances about God’s opinions on human feelings and emotion, Phelps-Roper felt a conflict within herself that mirrored the public’s concern about the church.
Social media emboldened Phelps-Roper’s baiting on social media. She “was exhilarated by the response. Since elementary school, she had given hundreds of interviews about Westboro, but the reaction on Twitter seemed more real than a quote in the newspaper.” (Chen pg3) With people reacting and talking directly with her, she felt the need to continue to grab the public’s attention however she could. And with what the church had raised her to believe, it was often hateful.
As uncomfortable as hate speech is, to put it lightly, the only way the people spouting it will listen to you is if you agree with them. They don’t often want to hear anything other than what they believe in, that’s what makes talking to each other nowadays so hard. It can be very easy to get emotional and frantic when trying to explain hatred to people in person, but online you have the opportunity to be patient and craft a carefully written response. You have the chance to actually talk with another person who otherwise would be at each other’s throats. Unfollow is just one example of a brainwashed individual learning to listen to something that isn’t the dominant personality in their life.
After reading Unfollow I’m not sure I have any more questions for her. I would praise her for her bravery in questioning the church and her family- it’s not an easy thing to do.